Long idle stares and instant (usually ‘what’s wrong with them’) opinions when strangers cross paths have become second nature to the streets of our city. “Hello” and “It was nice to meet you” is generally the extent of our meeting new people. Over a couple decades of schooling, learning life’s important lessons, and generally the development we reach is to be wary of strangers, keep distance from new company and question motives behind any shred of niceness that someone showers towards us. Is this really healthy?
If you do not relate to any of the statements above, congratulations, you are doing it right. Know that your life is helping change this world infusing humanity one smile at a time. If, instead, something above struck a nerve, it is more than likely you realize this state but find it difficult to single handedly bring any change. Following is an attempt at finding a way to bring about this essential change.
The first and most important thing to convince one of is there is more good than bad in this world. A simple concept, yet almost always forgotten when developing new trust. This apprehension usually arises from the fear of being hurt by people we let into our lives. However, instead of resolving the issue at hand, being hurt, we go on to avoid anything that can remotely reach that point. One case where I do not feel prevention is better than cure.
We often hide behind the comfort of old relations, partners and family. It is this satisfaction that perhaps keeps us from venturing too far out or letting someone too far in. There is one study after another to be found that accurately equates human happiness to doing ‘good’ for others over doing ‘good’ for self. In our satisfaction of life, not only are we accepting the secluded nature of the world but also missing out on all the positive moments we are capable of generating with others.
As for my part and I hope someday you reach the comfort to join in, I vow to connect as many lives as I can. To make an effort beyond the initial “hello” by sharing, imbibing and reflecting any and all positive aspects of people I meet. To strongly get influenced and vocalize such influence which gives people a new insight within themselves. Accept a nice gesture unquestioned and respond in utmost kind.
We have come to be a culture which has all the negative insights in celebrity lives, all the know-how about the ‘Real Housewives’, but little awareness amongst our closest friends. I wish to pen next, a few character sketches of positive influences around me. Whether you find yourself relate to one or more, may you inculcate them all. If it is you I write about, please consider this my honest and glad appreciation to have had you come into my life.